I was always kind. My abuse tested my kindness and you are testing my patience.
‘no, my abuse made me a spineless jellyfish living in perpetual fear of standing up for myself, but thank you for framing that as a positive thing you like about me’
“I am a good person despite my abuse, not because of it”
Abuse made me hypersensitive to other people’s emotions while neglecting my own boundaries and comfort because I’m afraid of upsetting someone or having them lash out at me.
The upcoming midterm elections are poised to be incredibly important for the future of our country. You need to vote in them–the primaries and the general.
Are you registered to vote? If you think you are, take a moment to check your registration well ahead of voting day. Make sure you know your voting dates, polling place, how to get an absentee ballot if you need one, and any ID requirements.
If you aren’t, register right now! Many states require registration before a deadline some time in advance of voting day, so don’t wait.
(Vote.org is reputable, but if you don’t want to use them, just Google “[state] voter registration” for information.)
And I don’t want to get too partisan on this post, but… if you have any reservations about voting for a “lesser evil,” get over them now. Our voting system requires strategic voting, and that sucks, but since it’s true, vote strategically! Vote your heart in the primaries, but in the general, vote for the lesser evil. It’s a hell of a lot better than sitting on the sidelines patting yourself on the back for purity while the greater evil wins.
California! Voter registration deadline for the primaries is MAY 21ST 2018. Get registered!
Before you get mad at your partner for not doing what you expect them to do, Stop and ask yourself “have I ever communicated to them that I have this expectation?” If you have not, it’s unfair to expect them to read your mind.
So many arguments are saved by just opening your mouth and saying “hey hun, in the future can you….” Whether its articulating how you like to be loved, supported, or communicated with, you have to open your mouth. Your soul mate (IMO) isn’t the person that just always knows what you need when you need it without you telling them. Your soul mate is the person who hears your needs and thinks “I have no problem doing that because I love this person with my whole heart”
So check your attitude and open your mouth. Closed mouths don’t get fed.
